Today is ‘Time to Talk’ Day – a day for friends, families, communities, and workplaces to come together to talk, listen, and change lives. We all have mental health, and by talking about it we can better support ourselves and others.

Why is talking about mental health so important?

Research from Time to Talk Day 2024 revealed that nearly two thirds of people in the UK avoid talking about their mental health, with younger people being the most affected. Among these surveyed, 69& of 16-24 year-olds and 72% of 25-34 year-olds reported putting on a brave face, compared to just 28% of those aged 75 and over. Even though it may be easier to bottle things up and tell people you’re ‘fine’, doing this can have a negative impact on your wellbeing.

When we open up about our struggles, we not only allow ourselves to process emotions but also help normalise these conversations, making it easier for others to share their experiences.

Benefits of talking about mental health

Talking about mental health not only reduces feelings of isolation and loneliness, other benefits include:

  1. Reduced stigma – By openly talking about mental health, the negative perception associated with mental health issues can be challenged, encouraging more people to seek support without shame.
  2. Increased awareness and understanding – Open conversations can educate people about mental health conditions, the symptoms, and available support resources, promoting better understanding.
  3. Improved coping mechanisms – Talking about mental health concerns can provide a platform to develop healthier coping strategies and manage stress effectively.
  4. Early intervention – By discussing mental health, individuals may identify potential issues earlier and seek professional help, preventing further distress.
  5. Positive impact on relationships – Speaking to friends, family, and colleagues about mental health can strengthen relationships by fostering trust and empathy. 
  6. Better workplace environments – Encouraging mental health discussions in the workplace leads to a more supportive, understanding, and productive work culture.
  7. Encourages self-care – Conversations can highlight the importance of self-care routines, helping people develop positive habits such as regular exercise that support their mental wellbeing.

How do I start a conversation?

Talking about mental health doesn’t have to be scary. A simple “How are you really doing?” can make all the difference. Here are a few tips to help start the conversation:

  • Choose the right setting – Find a comfortable and private space where both of you can speak openly without distractions.
  • Ask open-ended questions – Instead of “Are you okay?” try “How have you been feeling lately?” to encourage a more meaningful response.
  • Listen actively – Show empathy, validate their feelings, and avoid rushing to offer solutions unless asked.
  • Share your own experiences – If appropriate, opening up about your own struggles can help normalise the conversation and make the other person feel less alone.
  • Be patient – Some people may not be ready to open up immediately. Let them know you are there when they’re ready.

Talking to someone you’re worried about

If a friend, relative or colleague doesn’t seem themselves, it’s always good to check in and see how they are doing. You don’t need to have all of the answers, just being there to listen and support them can be very powerful.

Some suggested prompts to start a conversation:

  • “I’ve noticed you haven’t been yourself lately. Is everything okay?”
  • “I care about you, and I’m here if you’d like to talk.”
  • “It’s okay if you don’t want to talk right now, but I’m always here when you’re ready.”

If they do open up, let them speak at their own pace and avoid trying to “fix” their problems. Instead, ask how you can support them and remind them that professional help is always available if needed.

Phrases to avoid

Certain phrases can come across as dismissive or unhelpful, despite them being well-intended. Try to avoid saying things such as “Just cheer up”, “You have nothing to be sad about”, and “Everyone goes through tough times”.

Instead, try saying things like “I’m here for you”, “It’s okay to feel this way”, and “How can I support you?”. These phrases offer support without invalidating their feelings.

Talking about your own mental health

Talking is good for your mental health, but starting a conversation isn’t always easy. If you would like to speak to someone about how you’re feeling, here are some tips that help:

  • Identify a trusted person – Choose someone you feel comfortable with, whether it’s a friend, family member, colleague, or professional.
  • Plan what you want to say – If you’re nervous, writing down your thoughts beforehand can help.
  • Be honest and direct – It’s okay to say, “I’ve been struggling, and I need someone to talk to.”
  • Choose the right time and place – Pick a setting where you feel safe and won’t be interrupted.
  • Consider professional support – If you’re finding it difficult to talk to those around you, reaching out to a therapist or support group could be a great option.

Breaking the stigma of mental health conversations

Talking about mental health is one of the most powerful steps we can take towards breaking the stigma, offering support, and improving overall wellbeing. Whether you’re starting a conversation, checking in on someone, or opening up about your own experiences, every conversation matters.

Let’s normalise conversations about mental health – not just today, but every day.

Disclaimer: The content of this article is provided for informational purposes only and does not substitute medical advice from a healthcare professional.